i am NOT pleased with it. and i am aware it is also partly an SO problem as well.
BM lost her daycare assistance. out of pure unadulterated idiocy. she almost lost it in january, but cried her way back and LOST IT AGAIN THE SAME WAY. this time they told her too bad, so sad, the wait list you will go.
before you ask, no my SO is not court ordered to pay for half of jack shit. they sort of left their CO unfinished because both of them were sick of court. child support is taken from his check. however, he does not leave the skids hanging. we pay for ALL their clothes, shoes, and they are at our house eating all our food most of the time. if daycare was coming out of her pocket im sure she would have made sure he was responsible for half but it wasnt so she didnt. she qualifies for the help. so this was an unexpected LARGE expense for us blue collar folk.
since this event, BM has had her 15 year old and her loser bf "watching" ss5. at her house, there is loser bf, his two girls ages 8 and 6, her 15 year old son and ss 12, 10, and 5. 12 would be ok on his own or with his 15 year old bro but bickers w ss10 if unsupervised all the live long motherfucking day. ss10 is young for his age and ss5 doesnt listen to anyone. ever.
she let her son go visit his uncle for a few weeks. somehow, this meant the skids needed to hang out at our house. with my ds18 and 15, who never agreed to babysit for anyone other than my infant. my ds15 is being a good sport about it but my ds18 is trying to focus on my infant. im paying him to watch him as a summer job until week after next, when he starts daycare.
SO told the skids that if ds18 tells them to leave the living room they must liien. day 1. ss10 is acting like a turd. ds18 asks him to leave. ss10 snottily "make me" ds18 calls SO, SO has to come home from work and handle this. ss10 spent the remainder of the day in his room. day 2. ss5 is yelling in the living room when baby is trying to sleep. ds18 tells him to leave. he says no. ds18 calls SO. ss5 gets mad and throws a piece of foam at ds18, hitting my baby. SO comes home and spanks ss5. baby is fine. today. it is 315 pm and my baby has hardly napped at all because ss5 will not stop yelling.
i am not mad at the skids. they surely did not ask for this. ss5 should be in daycare with some routine, rest time, recess. he is cooped up in our house with teenage step siblings that dont know how to care for a preschooler and needs to blow off steam.
what im irritated about: if BM lost her daycare, why the HELL are WE holding the bag for her when we have no supervision at OUR house? she caused this! i am aware they are SO's kids and i should expect anything. i just am not sure why her loser bf is sitting on his fucking ass in her house while my sons have to put up with the skids acting up while we are working!!! "they arent his responsibility" well they aint my sons responsibility either!!!!!
update: so. yesterday, ss10 was over at BM with party boys girls ages 6 and 8. (ss12 and ss5 were at our house) party boy left them from "early in the morning" until lunch time. BM came home to check on them around 1145. she usually does not get lunch until 12. party boy was gone but got there a few minutes later. first he told her hed only been gone 20 minutes but then he told her he had child support court (homie has custody of his girls because their mom is dead. he has 3 other kids from 3 other women) SO, he leaves the alone apparently. so it looks like skids would be at our house until her 15 year old comes home.
BM complained about him and his kids "tearing up her house and putting holes in her walls and shes fed up" but she wont do shit. she never does. he dumped her 3 times for the same chick and she still took him back every time. i think the only reason he hasnt bounced back w that chick again is because the other chick was done w him. BLAH! bunch of losers. useless breeders, those ones.