My DH and I have been married for 7 years now. I am the SM to two wonderful girls 16 and 14. We also have two daughters together 5 and 6. SD, 16, has always lived with us, her mother not having any contact up until this February. SD,14, lives with BM and visited us weekly for 2 nights and 3 days. DH has always paid CS, and awesome insurance. We've always picked SD up from BM's when it was our visit and took her back when our visit was over (she lives on other side of county). We've always attended ball games, adjusted visitation schedule if need be for sleepovers, games, vacations (we plan ours around visitation days) We've always tried to be very flexible and supportive for the happiness of SD. She's 14 now and started out dodging texts and calls from DH to see when she was coming for the week (here lately it was changing weekly because she always had something come up). DH finally got really worried and called BM to see what was going on. She basically told him that SD was old enough to come over if she wanted and if she didn't want to she didn't have to. That any contact was a choice on SD's part. DH told BM he just wanted to see her, that was disrespecting. BM then stated that SD was just a child and he was an adult. SD won't take our calls or even text is back. DH texts weekly to let her know he loves her and just wants to see her whenever is good for her, that he'd like to know what's wrong so we can fix it as a family. What should we do?! We can't afford court. I'm so upset with BM and SD both. My DH is so hurt, and our other 3 DDs just want to see their sister (she won't text or contact SD,16 either). Any suggestions would be most helpful.
on Jul. 25, 2013 at 8:06 AM