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I think there are insecure BM's on here that love to cause drama.
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Total Votes: 70
Am I the only one that has realized that there are obviously a ton of BM"s in this group that shouldn't be in this group unless they are a SM's? You can usually tell who they are by their defensive comments and PRO-Birth Mother comments. A lot of BM's are angry and bitter. I'm not making it up, if you have looked at other posts you will notice their are a ton of posts about SM's having to deal with miserable BM's. I don't believe it is a BM's right to be rude, uncivil and hateful just because you have children with someone and they have moved on with their life with someone else. If a BM is truly happy and secure in her life I can almost guarantee that she is not going to cause the SM any grief.
I have been dealing with a bitter ex-wife for the past 6 years and it wasn't until 3 months ago when she broke down crying that she was sorry for being a complete b*tch. Of course she didn't apologize, because she was sincerely sorry. She apologized, because we found out my SS who is 8 was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes and she wanted him to be well taken care of and safe while she was at work. Yes, me being the SM of this adorable, loving boy offered to watch him on her weeks after school so his diabetes was managed properly instead of a random baby sitter. All of a sudden I was a godsend to her. I have always been a great SM, she just was full of anger that she never realized it. These are the words from her own mouth.
Why can't the BM's be happy that someone loves and cares for their children when they are not with them? Are they that insecure in their mother role that they seriously think we are here to take their place? The children and the SM's know that we are not trying to take their place, so why can't they just suck it up and be happy their children are being well taken care of and loved?