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I know I am going to get a lot of s**t for this post.  But I want to ask a question and don't expect completely truthful responses to it.  But here it goes.  When I had my first child, I didn't really want to have him. I wanted an abortion. But people who were in my close circle convinced me to have my child.  They said once my child is here I will never regret my choice.  And to be quite honest I don't. I love my son and I would kill anyone who threatens him.  However, I don't think I made my choice based on these other peoples opinions.  I think I made my choice because deep down inside it is what I truly wanted even though  the repercussions suck. That is not even a true statement.  Some of the repercussion suck.  That being said, I still feel I was forced into having a child I really did not want.  

This will never happen again.  My question to all of you is without having some super mom judgments shoved down your throat, would you have given birth when you did?  Have you ever had a chance to say I wish I did not do what I did?  And since this is an  Internet name no one will ever know it was you.  Someone said to me once my child is born I will never regret the things I could not do from now on.  But to be quite honest there are some things I wish I could do and I can't now because I am a parent. I am not saying I regret my choice, but I still have some dreams that will never come true.  Here is your invitation to anonymous say a dream that will never come true.  

by on Jul. 28, 2013 at 1:24 AM
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by on Jul. 30, 2013 at 1:11 PM
I love all three of my kids and had them on purpose. I would never regret them, but sometimes I do wish I had some "me time." My kids aren't used to babysitters, and DH is cheap so we literally NEVER have a date night. OK, I shouldn't say never...maybe once a year. I will have a night out with friends while DH stays home once in a blue moon. It's super infrequent. So I miss going out and having a few drinks with friends, going out to dinner without worrying that my kids are going to make a scene and we're going to have to leave, etc.

I do sort of regret having a blended family just because SD's schedule makes it SO hard for us to plan things as a family. Family vacations usually just don't happen because her a he duke throws us off, and we almost always have to celebrate holidays with her on a different day. When my kids are dating age, I will STRONGLY encourage them not to date people with kids, unless they have their own kids.
by Bronze Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 3:21 PM

I wish more people could be honest and have children with more care and thought. GL to you.

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