I've joined this online community because I feel like I need support from other stepmoms. I am almost 29 and I married an amazing man that is 17 years my senior. We have a great relationship and even though there is such an age difference, you would never know it. I need help because his exwife is still very much in the picture because they have 3 children together. There are also upcoming legal battles because she is less than responsible and fails to take anything seriously. On top of all that, my three step chidren are really great kids! Truely! Sometimes, however, I feel like their behaviors should be improving as they grow and they are just getting worse. The two youngest can be very disrespectful and unkind to one another and other members of our family. The oldest has basically raised the two youngest (when they are with their mother) because, like I said, she is irresponsible and living the "single life." The girls are in counceling and the boy will be once school starts again. My husband and I are also in counceling so that we can work through all the crazy with his exwife. I just need some help. I feel like I'm the only one out there with these struggles, though I'm certain that's not true. Can anyone give me a few guiding words or some encouragement about the situation?