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NCP moving long distance

Posted by on Jul. 28, 2013 at 10:47 PM
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What is the best approach to informing the CP? Stepchild?

How does your CO handle long distance vistation, if it is mentioned? 

**Distance is approximately 3 hrs by plane.

Wife, Mother and Career Woman living in Jamaica

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momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 10:50 PM
I would send a certified letter stating the intent to relocate.

Will the NCP pay for transportation to bring the child to his/her home? If you have to travel by plane, a schedule that would work for me would be school breaks once a month (we have one long weekend each month), alternating holidays and majority of summer break from school. 1/2 of June and all of July, leaving August for CP to vacation and prepare for school.
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Tx_stepmom
by on Jul. 28, 2013 at 10:50 PM

What does the CO say?  There should be a clause in it stating how visitation works if one of the parent's lives over "X" number of miles away.  At least it does in our CO.  

cLanief
by Bronze Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 10:51 PM
Depends what parenting plan states.
Polkadotted
by Gold Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 10:54 PM

I think a letter is fine for the CP, a phone call also in decent situations but I would tell my child myself in person if possible.  If the child was older I would feel comfortable telling him before I told the CP.

For visitation I would try to do it as often as you can afford.

macbudsmom
by Silver Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 11:15 PM
Depends on the type of relationship you have with CP. If cordial, I'd try and talk to the kids together. If not, I'm not sure how you would tell the kids. In my opinion though I think its horrible when a parent moves so far from their kids.
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leegirl_jm
by Ruby Member on Jul. 29, 2013 at 6:27 AM
What does the clause state in yours?

Quoting Tx_stepmom:

What does the CO say?  There should be a clause in it stating how visitation works if one of the parent's lives over "X" number of miles away.  At least it does in our CO.  

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leegirl_jm
by Ruby Member on Jul. 29, 2013 at 6:28 AM
What does yours state?

Quoting cLanief:

Depends what parenting plan states.
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whatIknownow
by Ruby Member on Jul. 29, 2013 at 6:39 AM

I would just tell them next time I see them: "I'm moving 3 hours away by plane, I won't be involved in our child's life anymore."

I guess they can tell the kid, "Maybe I'll see you again when you grow up. Bye and have a nice life."

leegirl_jm
by Ruby Member on Jul. 29, 2013 at 6:46 AM
Usually the parent who moves is required to pay for transportation.



Quoting momof2ex1:

I would send a certified letter stating the intent to relocate.



Will the NCP pay for transportation to bring the child to his/her home? If you have to travel by plane, a schedule that would work for me would be school breaks once a month (we have one long weekend each month), alternating holidays and majority of summer break from school. 1/2 of June and all of July, leaving August for CP to vacation and prepare for school.
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leegirl_jm
by Ruby Member on Jul. 29, 2013 at 6:52 AM
I think it is unfortunate but I can understand the reasons in these times.

Quoting macbudsmom:

Depends on the type of relationship you have with CP. If cordial, I'd try and talk to the kids together. If not, I'm not sure how you would tell the kids. In my opinion though I think its horrible when a parent moves so far from their kids.
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