My name is Judy and I'm in a second marriage. I have 3 kids from my first - ranging in age from 20 - 28, my husband has 3 also - 16 - 24 AND we just had twin boys in February. I also have a grandson and another grandbaby on the way (which is a whole 'nother story).
So my stepkids are a little odd - or maybe it's just me. My husband had this great (crazy) idea of getting all his kids together under one roof - sleeping at our summer cottage. The 16 year old refuses to acknowlege the babies - won't look at them, walks past them and ignores them, is totally self-centered. The 24-year old is the most helpless 24 year old I've ever met, and the 21 year old (girl) seems to be the best of the bunch.
So one night during the vacation, the 16 year old comes upstairs to our bedroom and tells my husband he's scared and asks my husband to come downstairs and sleep with him.
The next day I found the 24 year old sprawled across my bed reading War & Peace. No permission asked or anything - he just invaded our bedroom! He explains that this is his favorite spot in the cottage because it used to be his mother's bed. HUH? I didn't want to chastise him (not MY job) but I told him I needed to change one of the babies, so he reluctantly got up and left me a warm changing spot - on the bed I share with his dad! Then he and his dad got into an argument about whether or not he could go to grad school and he told his father he wanted this to be a private discussion so I got "sent to my room" essentially. I went to sleep early with the babies snoring beside me while my husband had the run of the downstairs, negotiating with his son.
None of this seems "normal" to me and I wasn't having fun. It went on like this before the babies were born - the 16 year old being too scared to sleep alone and summoning my husband in the middle of the night, but I never felt so invaded and intrusive before. So today, I excused myself and took the babies home early, leaving my husband with his kids. It was clear to me that they all needed more attention from him and, frankly, I was getting annoyed with the negative ways they were going about getting it. I figured it made a lot more sense to let him go about his unfinished business with his boys alone.
Now I need a vacation from the vacation...
Nice to meet you all!