So BM and her DH moved to town about 4 months ago after BM's parents bought them a house that they are renting. BM did not plan to go back to work but her DH has been looking for a job and has not yet found one. He does get a military pension but half of it goes to his ex for CS and the other half is barely enough for rent. So anyway, BM told us the other day that they are basically flat broke and asked if we could feed the kids breakfast and dinner everyday (we have 50/50 but the kids are with her during the day while we work, she normally feeds them dinner two or three times a week). That is not a problem but school shopping is fast approaching and BM is now saying she will not be able to help out at all, which means we would have to buy all clothes and supplies for all 3 kids if we want them to have new things. This normally wouldn't bother me but it's just frustrating that BM did not plan for any back to school shopping while she spent the summer spending money on non-necessities. This summer she has bought new furniture, new clothes for her, went on a trip to Santa Cruz, went to a broadway play, and bought two pet snakes. That may not seem like a lot but it is when you and your DH are both unemployed, IMO. I know there is nothing I can do but I'm just afraid if we keep picking up all the slack when it comes to the kid's expenses, she will continue to fall back on that and not make an effort to contribute. Also, we had paid $450 for my SD to attend summer camp and just asked her to pay the $75 in spending money she needed. We gave SD the $75 but BM only paid us back $50. Any thoughts on making BM accountable? There is no CS exchanged and no court order.
And before anyone says I'm just bashing BM, that is not my intent at all. Her and I get along and are very friendly with eachother I just think her priorities are a little out of whack.
on Aug. 1, 2013 at 12:18 PM