I'm in the cafeteria because I decided it isn't worth risking bm making a scene and stressing her dd out even more. My bf talked to her social worker and she told my bf she could lose her job for saying this and its off the record but she rather have me at the surgery than the child's mother because I'm more of a support and positive influence(for those who didn't see my last post bm is an alcoholic and has caused all kinds of problems. We have his dd full time and her only rights are a one hour visit once a week, she's missed her last two because she's been intoxicated. Ridiculous...:/ I feel so bad for his dd but she really doesn't seem to care anymore. I know she does deep down though I'm sure.) So I was in the preop waiting room until bm got up there and when she saw me she was so nasty and when we both got up she was like oh take your little girlfriend downstairs. In a way I understand her it must suck but really to talk in front of your child like that? Smh...just had to vent a little bit while I'm sitting here bored.