My SD is 16 (turned 16 in april) and still has not got her permit and here in my state they have to have the permit for 6 months before getting their drivers license. Well the BM texted my DH a couple weeks ago wanting us to give her $1750.00 to pay half on a car. He told her we dont have that kind of money right now. Well a couple days later she texted saying they found another car for her and wants us to pay the car payment ( anywhere between 250 - 400 monthly) and they add her to their insurance.
Now my SD doesnt have a job and doesnt want a job. BM just wants to hand her everything without her working for it. BM hardly ever works, she will get a job and stay for a month or so and then quit. SD is seeing that mom doesnt work so why should she.
We believe a child should work for things they want. We dont mind helping with a car payment but SD should as least get her a part time job and show some responsibility.
We dont see the sense in buying a car for her now when she cant even drive it. We suggested to wait until tax time and we will help however we can but she didnt want to acknowledge that.