Some of you might have read my brief outburst in the other post ... I apologize for the language, but I just had it!
DD has been suffering from severe, migraine-like headaches for more than 2 years. Initially we thought it was her eyesight which caused them. She got tinted glasses, and the headaches improved for a while. Her eyes are okay now (glasses no longer required), but the headaches haven't gone, quite the contrary, they increased.
Over the past two weeks, DD has had dizzy spells, bouts of nausea (to the point of vomitting) ... and bad headaches, always in the same place. The day before yesterday, she called me from the stables, saying she was really ill. I went to collect her, and she said she was fine again, the nausea had passed ... so I left again. 30 minutes later, she had vomitted all over the place. I collected her, she was shaking, kept vomitting throughout the 10-minute drive ... it was so bad that she even lost control of her bowels.
So I decided to take her to the doctor the following day... and told BF about it. He didn't consider it necessary and suggested calling the phone helpline instead, because they "might" be able to tell me what "might" be wrong! I don't care what "might" be wrong, I want to know what "is" wrong.
DD had a good night's sleep and talked to BF the following morning ... he questioned her about symptoms etc, over and over again. SM seemed to be listening in the background, since she commented occasionally. After about 5 minutes, BF said to DD "well, maybe it is a good idea after all if mom takes you to the doctor". So SM takes the phone from BF, and asks DD exactly the same questions BF already asked her. No "sorry you are ill" or "hope you'll be better soon", but a mere double-checking of BF's decision to agree with me.
I've got it under control. I pay for medical care, on my own. I take her to the appointment, I keep BF in the loop. So WHY ON EARTH does she feel the need to yet again interfere? Why should this even be a topic for discussion in their household? I don't have a history of dragging DD to the doctor for every little thing! Why the hell does this cow have to make every little thing so incredibly hard? I don't get it!