At what age do you allow the kid to have a say in where he/she wants to be?
I was talking to the moms at SDs' old school. It dawns on me that some of the kids told their mom/dad that they don't like the custody arrangement anymore. They want to come back to one house more than the other. These kids are in their teen 13-15. One girl asked her mom if she could stay with her mom more and not going to her dad during the week day.
What do you think? When can the kid have a say in where they want to be for any specific day? Can they jump to one house if the other house doesn't give them what they want? Any body in this situation knows how to make it work?
UPDATE #1 - Let us this scenario - both houses provides equally safe environment for the step kids.