I've spent the last 2 hours trying to figure out how to get the boys here for visitation with their dad. Flights on any of his days off that are weekends are over $600 a person, that's $1200 for both kids. Like most people, we can't afford that every month. A flight to get them here during Christmas holiday will be almost $800 per kid. To get them here for spring break would be a little under $500 per kid.
We can fly them into DFW for $300 per kid but then we have to drive the 6 hours to pick them up from the airport and the 6 hours back. Then drive it again 3 days later when their plane would take them back. The gas, alone, would likely be 2 full tanks which is about $120. Plus any pit stops that have to be made to eat.
None of the prices include taxes or fees for unaccompanied minors.
So, who should pay for all of this? BM is choosing to move this far away, so is it reasonable to say she should pay it? What does everyones CO say about it? DH's says nothing about LD as far as who pays what (that I could find) but in the close proximity part it says he is to pick them up and drop them off, thus paying for the gas.
It doesn't seem right that she can up and move and then stick us with the outrageous cost of transportation when DH already pays her so much in CS. She told DH she would pay for half of the plane tickets, but she has said she would pay for half of stuff before then didn't follow through. On top of that, we are unlikely to be able to afford half of it for the Christmas holiday and it's pushing it for us to be able to pay for half of it at any other time. We can figure it out, he needs to be able to see his kids ... but it just doesn't seem fair to put this burden on us, financially, when she is making the choice to move.
ETA: Looking into unoccompanied minor fees, it's another $100 per child to get them here. So even for Spring Break we are looking at $400 per kid if we fly them into DFW plus gas to get to them and get back.