DH was divorced for quite sometime, BM abandoned kids, he has full custody. We only get CS when there is a garnishment but she quit working and she hasn't seen them but once in 3yrs. His mother "helped" with kids. Until three years ago all relationships including one marrage failed. Excuses were given such as used DH for immigration, illegal immigrant, etc. However, years into this (marriage) and after comming accross things I no longer feel the reasons were anyother except that his Mom and kids want son and daddy for themselves.
When we were engaged MIL told me that skids were not bio, BM was pregnant when they married and continued to cheat which led to the divorce (DH backs up this story). She also let me know her wishes for a bio-grandchild. At the time I was ok since they are not my bio kids either why do I care and I wanted a child of my own.....I wish I had noticed those red flags.
Fast forward to now. I have produced a son and my life is hell. It has really gotten bad since DH said this is the only one. So MIL knows I won't be having more. SS14 lives with her (we had to separate skids for reasons that had nothing to do with me) and she acts like a BM to SD11. All the crazy BM problems this group talks about well I have them with my MIL! DH wont do anything. He says we will not get inbetween me and his mother. MIL wants to take my son over just as she has done with skids of course which will never happen as long as I am still breathing! I think she saw me as a uterus and now that I've done my job its time for me to move on just like BM did.
SS14 and SD11 certainly want me gone of course....I've been put through the ringer. MIL constantly makes excuses for their bad behavior and condesends me in front of them. My mother keeps her distance but after I had the baby she started helping with things like picking SD11 up for practice. She commented to me recently that MIL is talking to skids about me and that I need to confront her and tell her to stop. I could go on and on. After reading several posts about disengaement I started that 2 weeks ago and it has helped with SD11, but this can't always be this way. Has anyone else experienced a MIL that acts like this?