Why are you allowing yourself to be used as an unpaid nanny to a man who hasn't even married you?
Also....they're not your stepchildren if you're not married to their father.
How often do you have the kids? I would suggest telling dad to find alternative care.
He also isn't home with the kids all day, every day. If he was he would probably be losing his mind and begging to be at work. I hope you can find time for yourself atleast ask for time for yourself if he spoils you so much get him to pay for pedi/mani/spa days every month. Days without kids. Date nights. Just some suggestions so you won't lose your mind. We have to take care of ourselves first or we can't take care of anyone else. N
Quoting Melimelimeli:Ok. So thanks for your interest. It's hard to figure out how to start some times and I was in a really bad place earlier and just wanted to screem but lately I have found myself all alone when I feel like this. My boyfriend is the best, no real complaints there, except his idea of parenting is really laid back and he thinks that kids are just beautiful and fun and appreciates every scream, spilled drink, and toy in the hall way. My boyfriend is the most patient man in the world. But back to the divorece. The papers have been signed by both parties, we are just waiting on the judge to sign it. He has a few businesses and a few houses and lets just say a lot to lose. My boyfriend felt like he owed it to his children to fight for these things since their mom wouldn't of passed anything down to them. So for the sake of his children it was a very complicated divorce. The custody battle alone lasted a year, which I was a part of and had a psyc evaluation for.
Divorces are always sloppy no matter what. some just don't deal with the huge complications of others. Sorry but a piece of paper doesnt make a commited relationship. So marrying isn't the commitment and neither does this make you a step parent or not.
Your a parent figure period, and i would talk with the other half about his lack of parenting and rules and find a way to create rules he can live with. he is like this with his kids he will also be like this with the together child. you have to be on the same rules and disapline level to make it work.
Quoting Melimelimeli:I want to be with him I just don't know how to be a good step mom. The kids see me as their primary care taker. The youngest one, she's five, calls me mom. But I run into a lot of problems. I need help, advise, and support. And I just don't agree with my boyfriends advise and I don't want all we talk about be me complaining about his kids
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