Im PMSing, so please excuse the vent. It just really drives me up the wall that BM is constantly stressing SD8 out about the dumbest things.
My DD7s birthday party is tomorrow. We are getting manicures, going for hibachi, then having a sleepover. Its just DD, SD8, my little cousin, and two of DDs friends. I always plan it on a weekend that we dont have skids and I send my DS5 to my fathers. This way, DD can have the house to herself and also so that a bunch of rowdy girls staying up all night and waking up early dont bug the other kids.
Well SO told BM about the party a month ago. She agreed that SD can come. Well last night SO is talking to SD and she says that she isnt going to DDs party. Her reason is that BM wants to take them for manicures instead and that Moms upset and doesnt think its fair that she's doing it without her. SO tells her its ok and that she doesnt have to go if she doesnt want to. SD starts crying saying that she really wants to go but that "Mom doesnt understand why you couldnt do this during your vacation week." He tells her that it wouldnt be right to plan DDs birthday around what BM wants, but thats its ok if she doesnt go and to not be upset about it. He did suggest that maybe she could get a mani at the party and a pedi with Mom. They hang up and she calls back an hour later saying that her Mom said she could go again.
I just dont understand why she needs to put that stress on her. She knew what the party was a month ago! Why cant she just either say NO to begin with being that its her weekend, or just let it go and let the kid have fun being that she said yes?
And then on top of that, we are having a family party for DD and SD12 next weekend. Their bdays are 6 days apart. BM asked if she could have SD10 and SD8 for a few hours that day because BM has a party to go to that the girls friends are going to be at. SO talks to the girls about it and tells them that we have the family party, but being that its the last weekend of summer, they can choose whichever they'd like. They didnt realize it was the family party, so SD8 chose that and SD10 chose her friends. SO did not try and guilt either of them, he just wanted them to know their options. He wasnt upset with SD10 at all when she said she wanted to go to the other. Well, BM didnt like that and told SD8 it was ONLY a party for DD and that it wasnt for SD12. And that Dad only said that so that they would choose HIS party. So of course SD got all upset that Dad "lied" to her.
First of all, if he didnt want them going to the party with BM, he had every right to just say NO. And he would have. He really didnt care which one they chose, he just wants them to have fun. Second, why would you straight out lie to your kid about something you know absolutely nothing about? Why would we have a family party for DD and completely ignore SDs birthday??? It just drives me crazy that she has to stress SD out about the stupidest things.
And I know this is a petty vent, but it just bugs me to see her constantly do this to SD.