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My husband and I have been together for 3 yrs and have lived together this whole time beween us we have 7 children all together oldest is 9 and youngest is 18 mts. BM started fucking up 2 years ago. and has been in and out of their life. She has been in jail 6 of thos months to when my SD7 went and visited her. when she was in 1st grade all her creative writing consitsted of her visiting her mom in jail and how sad it was and how she missed her and loved her. We iniatially hid it from the kids because there was no need for them to know she was there until she wanted to see her. my other 2 sk are ss3 and ss5. She was picked up again on the 22 and just plead guilty to 2 felonies the other day. We were just informed that she will be serving 2 years in prison and it hurts. I just dont understand and probably never will how a mother could intentionally do this and know that she is hurting her children. She has had full custody through the courts but has only been allowed to see the kids when she was with her parents or gparents because we worried about their safety, but now that we know exatally where she is we will be filing for full custody, and in AZ you can go as far as terminating parental right for being a convicted felon. I know its a harsh thing but whos to know if this sentence will strighten her out and its is an option that we are considering she was given probation and refused to abide by it and now she has to pay her dues to the state. Now we told the 5 and 7 yr olds that she was back in jail but now we are gonna have to explain to them that she will not be around at all for the next couple years and i just want to cry. They are my babies i love them as my own and the last thing i want to do is cause them this pain. I know its not us causing it but we are the ones who have to ease it and we are no longer making up the lies of her being sick and giving them that hope of her getting better. Because reality is she is the one that decided to do what shes has done and we have been her to pick up the pieces. She has 5 other felonys pending on her right now as well as well as 4 shoplifing charges that have yet to be brought up. Our 3 yrs old knows nothing hes was only 8 months when i came along so he calls me mama and him mom mommy but he has never had her in his life regularly but he started noticing she wasnt around more and more. In a heartbreaking situation that no kid should have to go through. I know im newer to the site and have posted here and here but really just had to vent. Thank you ladies for reading.