I'll keep this short and to the point.
Today we buried my grandmother's ashes (she died back in February)
basically bm found out just before we left the house-where we were going and raised holy hell over the whole situation
dh said "well you took them to your boyfriend's ex wife's father's funeral (my stepkids have never met this man-they went to support bm's boyfriend's kids)
bm: I"m allowed to take my kids wherever i want! YOU and Kat (that's me) can't be taking them anywhere without my permission!!!
i'm like "wtf ever"
i've been in their lives for 7 yrs now and NOW you wanna play this game?! My grandmother was very close with sd12 and dd9. but it's okay because next weekend is the family reunion-the kids are coming to that...
makes no sense-dh can't take the kids to any family weddings or funerals but yet bm can?!
wtf and then while dh and I were at the cemetery..
then MIL came over today-trying spewing her hatred to sd12 and ss7 telling them I'm not their real mom (not shit because if I was-YOUR ASS wouldn't be allowed around them!) and they don't have to listen to anything i say or have anything to do with me-they both told her she's wrong and she got butt hurt and left.