Slight issue....not sure what to say or do....kinda long....
So, on y'all advice, I took the road of disengaging from SD. I do nothing for her anymore. Her dad must do everything for her- from laundry to dishes, etc.
So that is no longer an issue and honestly it has cut down on our fighting- a lot.
In the meantime- a slight issue has come up.
SD is 11. And with that comes a typical 11 year old, tween know it all attitude.
DS is 7. He has ADHD and a heart condition and an immiune system disorder.
On top of that, I have recently (within the last 2 weeks) been told that I have cervical cancer. I had surgery last week to remove most of my cervix and what not. The test from the tissue that they removed came back that it's in the very early stages and they got all of the tumor. I have a follow up- week after next to do another pap and some other test to make sure that they got everything.
My 7 year old does NOT know that I have a dx with cancer. He knows I had surgery to "get the bad stuff out" and that I have to some tests. He is very familiar with hospitals from his own health problems.
Okay so that's the background information.
Now the Issue---
SD has decided to start talking about some major life events with DS. She has decided to talk to him about death and hospitals and dying, etc.
ONLY IT"S MISINFORMATION!
Like horribly wrong information.
She is telling him that if a child dies then the mom gets so sad that she dies too. She told him that if you go to the hospital- you die.
DS already has axienty about his hospital visits, etc. He does not like needles, or even the hospital really.
My point is-- I need her to stop giving him misinformation about things that she clearly has no idea what she is talking about.
I am NOT discussing it with her because I don't want the backlash from mom or dad.
I have spoken to dad about it and he says "well that is between her and her mom"
ARGH! No, it's my problem now cause she doesn't shut up!
So, where do I go? How do I counsel little man?