I have been a stepmom for 7 years, I have a sd, 18 and 19 and a ds 16 (not husbands son). Anyway,, things have just been horrilbe between my son and husband. Notice I cannot even say dh, just h. Not just to my son, but also to me.
He blames us for all his money problems and blames me for his kids not coming around for the past year. Mind you he has a HUGE anger issue: banging walls, hitting furniture, breaking things, threatening to commit suicide, but you know, is all my fault they are not around, according to him. He is suppose to have 50/50.
Anyway, he was away for 2 months in another state visiting his stepdad who had bypass surgery so he extended his trip to take care of him. He came home the other day, and we hardly spoke to one another. He has made no effort to talk to me, just stays in our room, watching tv, eating in there, only came out when his kids stopped by to watch a movie becuase he asked them to come since he hasn't seen them.
The 19 yr old has text me saying that she misses us doing things but she's confused on things because of things her father is saying about me. So apparently for the past few months he has been seeing his kids, just to talk and complain about me.
Today I told him, "If you think I haven't noticed how you just stay in the room instead of being with me or talking to me, believe me I have noticed". Then he goes into blaming me for everything wrong in his life! He says he lost a lake house that his bio dad sold because I lost my job and is in school finishing my degree. Whenever I asked him anyting about the this lake house he wanted to retire to he would always tell me, "I don't want to talk about it, I'm to depressed" but he blew up on our anniversary blaming me that he lost it and his bio dad sold it.
All he ever complains about is money money money. He didn't pay for my schooling, I did with money I made by babysitting my nephews. If I didn't do that, I wouldn't have been able to finish my BA. He did not pay for my tuition, I did. He told me I better find a way to pay cause he didn't have it and I did find a way, and then blames me!
My son can't stand his stepdad due to how he acts to him, either yelling at him or ignoring him that he stays at my parents home, for almost a year now, and then blames my son for bills? And that I don't give him my childsupport??? He won't even speak to my son, spend time with him, and practically won't have him here at the house and expects his child support??
What should I do?