Both widows, have daughters, bfs daughter is spousified. Help!
His D is a talented, sweet girl, that has her father wrapped around her finger. She still holds hands with her father, and would rather be with him, then the two friends she does have. Their relationship is very intimate, at least to me.
We have started dating again. I know we truly love each other. Slowly we are working on the problems we faced. I believe in chores, responsibility and consequences. Bf is having a hard time seeing that his daughter needs consequences. She's respectful, does well in school, and makes him supper every night, why should he impose things on her when she's so perfect? He is having a hard time seeing that he spousified his daughter, even tho many people have shared with him their concerns with their relationship.
I need for my bf to see this post and your comments for him to understand. We have tried counseling, but at the moment it's too expensive. His eyes are open, but his attachment to his daughter, and the hurt she might feel, is still getting in the way for him to understand that he needs to let his daughter go a little bit.
I would appreciate any help or comments you can add. Thank you!!!