Question about the custody schedule if neither can agree ***Update***
Some background: DH and BM were divorced about 8 years ago. The custodial agreement was joint custody. The arrangement they agreed on was BM got Mon and Wed, and every other weekend and DH got Tues and Thurs and every other weekend (this is not in writing). So that has been how it is since the girls were 4.
BM is taking DH back to court to re-evaluate her support order. Along with that, she wants to change the verbal agreement they had from the above custody schedule to a week-on/week-off schedule. DH wants to leave the schedule as is, and the girls are ok with the schedule as it is now...they have no complaints. BM works a lot of after-hours and weekends, so often at the last minute she's asking DH to cover her on her days with the girls. DH works from home and we basically do our thing when the girls are with BM...otherwise we're there for the girls. The only time we really ask BM to cover us is when we go visit my mother for a week and it's always planned at least 3 months in advance and on the weekends BM is supposed to have the kids. That way, the time we spend away from them is minimal and BM only has to pick them up from school and have them overnight 2 extra days.
The question: So, I was wondering if anyone has had any experience where BM wants the custody schedule to go one way, and DH wants it another way. If neither party can agree, does the judge make the final decision? Does a custody study have to be done? I'm pretty sure DH and BM want to keep the custody at joint. Neither wants full custody (I think DH would be more likely to want full custody than BM, but that's neither here nor there). Any info is helpful. Thanks!
Last night, the girls were asking me questions about things they wanted to know they could improve on, and one of them said that BM was going to run for city office! WTF? Like I said, the woman barely has time to be with her girls on HER time with them...what makes her think that she's gonna have time if she gets elected to a city office? She was bragging to them that our last name would be EVERYWHERE ("our" because she kept DH's name). Oh good God.
I told DH that he needed to talk to his attny about that. No wonder her and her attny were all hot to get this all resolved ASAP...they wanted to make sure it was all taken care of before she threw her hat in the ring!