I just feel that I am the only one that truly care about the skids education. My skids are SS is 11 and SD is 7. And my bio kids DS is 14 and DD is 7. I mean SO and BM do care if they pass but I feel as long as they pass every thing is A OK by SO and BM book. Like they could have D's and they would be fine with it. I try to get SO to care more about their education but he never liked school himself and so the kids don't like school. BM trys to pretend like she is Supermom but then she keeps the kids home from school for no apparent reason. SS likes to pretend like he is sick when he isn't. You would think his own mother would be able to tell when he is faking it but she keeps him home anyway. I don't know if it is she doesn't want to fight with him or wants to be the favorite parent or is just lonely sitting in the house all day by her self I don't know. I mean both kids missed 9 days of school last year. And they were truly sick about 1/2 of that. Plus BM doesn't always check their homework. BM always has them do their homework before we get them Thurs night but then or 1/2 the time they have problems wrong that need to be corrected. And who knows what happens when they don't come over here for SO or I to check it. I would like the skids to study more over here and read but then I am the bad guy because I want the kids to do extra work. SO only gets skids EOWE so he doesn't want them to be doing homework the whole time. He is then worried the kids won't want to come over since we make them study and read all the time. Which I understand. SD is behind on reading but if SD reads more maybe she will become a better reader instead of being behind. Then SO thinks that since he only gets them EOWE what ever we have them do extra is only a drop in the bucket compared to the time BM gets with her and if BM isn't going to do the same. If BM isn't going to work with the SD on reading then us working with her EOWE isn't going to help much. SO and BM don't really talk about the kids education. SO one time brought up to BM that SS was behind on his reading homework because SS teacher emailed back informing SO and BM was more pissed that SO found out and not her than SS being behind on his reading homework. Like she didn't care that SS was behind she cared more that the teacher was emailing SO and not her. And the teacher emailed SO because SO called the teacher and asked. BM could have done that she saw his planner that said he was behind she just refused to do anything about it. And last year BM did inform SO that SD was in a special reading group but played it off as no big deal. We are unsure if SD is in the same special reading group since she is behind on her reading. SO is going to email the teacher and find out. This weekend SD was writing some of her letters backwards and I wanted her to practice writing her letters and we got into an fight because he didn't think it was necessary and she is fine. She ended up practicing but I don't think SD was too happy with me about it. I suggested maybe seeing if SD has a learning disability or has dyslexia and SO refuses to get SD tested. And since I don't have an legal rights I can't do anything. I understand it is hard to have your child labeled my DS has ADHD and my exh and I fought for year about getting him tested but eventually I did and I ended up putting him on medication that helped a lot. It is just frustrating that I feel like I am the only one that cares if skids go to school and succeed in school. I guess with my own bio kids I always wanted them to do well and if they were struggling I would work with them and make them practice. My DD is excelling so well. My DS is struggling a little but he is in high school now so it is a little harder than he is use to. I know I can't make people change it is just so frustrating to sit back and watch it happen.