My sister is getting married. We will call her A. last year, my oldest sister, B, got married. At B's wedding, A made a board game based off of another board game, and didn't include our SM because there just weren't enough characters in the game without excluding biological family. SM flipped out, got our dad on her side, and deleted me, and my two sisters from facebook because of this. Not that we care about facebook, but the message she sent.
So my sister A is planning her wedding and she called me today completely changing all her plans so that SM wouldn't be offended. She kept saying things like "well, i don't want to have bridesmaids/corsages (sp?) etc because I don't want to unintentionally exclude SM"...things like that.
SM has been in our lives since I was in late high school, they were in college.
She has already told my dad that she is not asking for any money for the wedding.
Do you think that SM should have any say in what part she has in this wedding? Should she just be happy she's invited and go with it? How should my sister handle her negativity on her special day? How can she reasonably discuss this with my dad without offending him and his wife? She's tried a few things, it hasn't worked. Any ideas?
****SM was IN the wedding. she walked down and was presented like family. I wasn't even in the wedding procession.********
***My sister apologized twice already. SM is still upset about it. My sister explained that she didn't in any way mean to offend her or make her feel like she wasn't part of the family. The game was a specific board game that my other sister (The one getting married) requested because it matched up with the hotel that she got married in. There were only 6 characters and i'm pretty sure that I wasn't on the card. I might have been, I honestly don't remember.
SM has also been very petty before. She already told me she doesn't consider my SD family? She told us that she was so hurt by this board game, and that her daughters would never do something like that. 2 of her daughters didn't even come to the wedding, and at one of her daughters weddings, my sisters and I weren't even in one single wedding photo. My dad was. He even did a first dance with the daughter.
My sister isn't happy about rearranging everything. She's really nervous and doesn't want to lose our dad. (there's a long story there, too).
Honestly, it feels like she is trying to make my sister look bad, so that my dad won't like her. She already did it with me. He still loves me of course, but he rarely sees me, calls me, anymore.
SM has been in our lives since my oldest sisters were in college, and I was in senior year of high school. She married my dad when I was in college.