I am so sick of her signing SS11 up for extra curriculars that affect DH's weekends WITHOUT consulting with him. This time it is Football, and ALL the games are Saturday Mid-day. She Never asks DH if he minds, she justs signs him up, and expects that DH will bring him to his games. If we lived in the next town, this would not be an issue, but we don't. We live an hour away. Just a vent.
Just because his parents divorced shouldn't mean that the kiddo doesn't get to participate in "his" life like other kids. I get why it is frustrating if you're far away. But what's the other option? The kid gets to do no EC's because his folks split and he is gone EOWE?
How does your DH feel about it? I would think that most dads would like that their son was playing ball and would plan on attending the games anyway so no big deal.
As kids get older, they have more and more activities that take them away from the home on evenings and weekends. I really don't think that divorce should stand in the way of having that normal childhood.
My DH is mad that he never has a say in anything that involves HIS WEEKEND. Did she ask? no. She just signs him up and then tells DH "Oh, by the way...he has football every weekend"
Quoting Birdseed:Just because his parents divorced shouldn't mean that the kiddo doesn't get to participate in "his" life like other kids. I get why it is frustrating if you're far away. But what's the other option? The kid gets to do no EC's because his folks split and he is gone EOWE?
How does your DH feel about it? I would think that most dads would like that their son was playing ball and would plan on attending the games anyway so no big deal.
As kids get older, they have more and more activities that take them away from the home on evenings and weekends. I really don't think that divorce should stand in the way of having that normal childhood.
I can understand that your DH is upset that he didn't have input...but we're talking about a few hours on a weekend compared to what Mom is doing a few hours per day every day during the week, right? And it's something the child wants to do. I agree that it's something that should be discussed but I also think that it's reasonable that a kid will have activities that are for their sport or other activitiy that will impact both homes.
So your DH would say No he can't sign up for football? How fair is that to the kid?
When my boys were younger they had baseball and hockey. I was literally at the baseball field every single night. they were in different divisions due to their ages. I was a single Mom then with Dad out of state.......should I have told my boys no because it's not what I want? hell no. your Dh should be glad the
kid wants to play ball!
Quoting steplifewife:My DH is mad that he never has a say in anything that involves HIS WEEKEND. Did she ask? no. She just signs him up and then tells DH "Oh, by the way...he has football every weekend"
She does the same thing with Vacations. She schedules her vacation (2 years in a row) to start on a Friday that is DH's weekend, and then does not plan on coming home until two weeks later on the Sunday that would end his weekend. WITHOUT asking him in advance. Just emails him and says "I bought tickets already" this means he goes without seeing his kids for a month, sometimes more if he has a drill weekend the next available weekend.
Quoting steplifewife:
My DH is mad that he never has a say in anything that involves HIS WEEKEND. Did she ask? no. She just signs him up and then tells DH "Oh, by the way...he has football every weekend"
There are 3 options here then:
- Don't take SS to games on DHs weekend
- Suck it up and take SS
- Take BM to court to have the CO amended to add that these decisions must be joint. Though that will mean you will have to get BMs permission should you ever want to enroll SS in something in the future.
You can't change BM and what she chooses to do. I'm sure she does it partially to piss DH off...and its working.
Are they too old to enforce visitation schedule?
- steplifewife
on Sep. 10, 2013 at 3:10 PM