Couldn't think of a better title, sorry.
When I was pregnant with DS2, BM hoped and prayed I either have a boy, or miscarry. She told SD9 that this should b her thinking too, b/c if I had a girl, it would replace SD. BM told us this to our faces, this is how we know, there was no heresay, this didn't come from SD. Well, DS was a boy, all was good and the BS stopped.
I am 21 weeks, and just found out Tues. it is a girl. I can't control my uterus, it just happened to be a girl. This concept is lost on BM, however, and now there are more issues than ever. BM has told SD she is now replaced, and will probably be unwelcome here soon as a result. SD did not come over this weekend, DH called to talk to her, and she had a total breakdown. Almost every sentence out of her mouth started with "Mommy says..." You won't love me as much. You won't let me come over. Sm is having a girl, she did this on purpose. You are going to give the baby my stuff. "Mommy says I don't have to come over if you are keeping THAT baby."
I am floored, and angry. ALL the kids were SO happy that we are having a baby, and now, SD is SO torn up and angry. There isn't a "fix" for this, I am keeping my baby. SD is coming over next weekend, hopefully, DH made it very clear, and he wants to talk to her about all this.