my husband has a son from a woman that he was with before we got together. Basically she used him to have a baby with no intention of being with him, even went to the extent of poking holes in the condoms. After finding out she was pregnant she ditched him. i have read letters that she wrote to him while she was pregnant saying that the baby wasn't his, that she had been using other guys to have a baby too, and that even if it was his she didn't want him to be involved.
We have been married five and a half years and have three children together. About a year ago, when I was pregnantwith our last child, we got a letter saying she wanted child support and that he had to go take a paternity test. come to find out, my husband is the father.
The mother still insisted that she didn't want him involved in the child's life other than sending her money twice a month. That was fine. Seemed kind of unfair but what do I know.
Now my in-laws are bugging my husband saying that they want to meet the child. I am finding it really hard to deal with this.
How should my husband and I introduce ourselves? How do we deal with him meeting our kids? What about the grandparents? family functions? things like that...
Please don't blast me, I am stressed out as it is about all of this. Any advice is appreciated!