Anyone in this group have a good relationship with BM (or SM if you are BM)? ETA
If so please give me some encouragement.
I am trying so hard to be civil to my ex's GF. After our past it's hard. But I know she makes him happy. And I have forgiven them for the affair & asked for forgiveness for my part of the break up of the marriage. I know if circumstances weren't what they are then we would be nicer to each other.
Thanks for the words of encouragement ladies. A little background if you don't already know. Ex cheated on me with this girl (I say girl because she is just over 20 & we are almost 40) about 5 years ago. I didn't know about her for another 2 years. By then she was pregnant. Ex claimed he wanted to be with me, make things work, yada yada yada. Fast forward to Nov 2011 he's in the ER due to throwing out his back. He was suppose to go to her place to see their son but he text her saying I was taking him to the ER & he wouldn't be able to make it. She decided to show up knowing I was there. I had a panic attack in the ER & had to leave the room.
Now- almost 2 years later I am at the point where I know I can be civil, it's just still a sore spot (mainly because he is more involved in their child's life than he ever was in our children's lives). Yesterday I went to pick the kids up & we had a some what decent conversation. GF works in retail & asked me what size pants our DD wears (today is her birthday & GF wanted to get her some clothes). After the kids left I whispered (in case any were outside the door listening) that I had bought DD some pants online & once she tries them on I will let her know what size. I think I did good there. Right?