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Just walking into your house...

Posted by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:23 AM
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I was a little put off when my stepkids  stepdad just walked into my house without knocking yesterday because he was looking for SS. 

I understand that he wanted to get him and leave.  I get that.  BUT, it's MY home.  He is a guest here. 

So I was wondering... do you let your Stepkids family walk into your home without knocking?  Do YOU go into their Mom's house without knocking? 

And IF your Stepkids were with Mom and needed to come by for something, would you want them (your stepkids not Mom) to knock or would they be welcome to let themselves in?

by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:23 AM
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N_maricle
by Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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I would start keeping the door locked:) I dont want anyone walkIng in uninvited.
ramita
by Silver Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:26 AM
SS wouldn't have to knock because it is also his home. Anyone else I expect to knock unless I knew they were there. As in I had just talked to this person, and then came inside. SS ran inside to do something and that person followed him in to try to get him to come on.
kappalopokis
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:27 AM


DH and SD were playing outside.  SS and I were playing inside.  So, I was within about 3 feet of the door.  and had left it unlocked because I figured that I'd hear them pull up and just take SS outside when they got there.  I just didn't hear them... and he didn't knock. 

Well, I did hear him STOMP up my steps but it didn't give me enough time to react and get to the door. 

Quoting N_maricle:

I would start keeping the door locked:) I dont want anyone walkIng in uninvited.



kappalopokis
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:27 AM


This situation I could understand.  An my stepkids will never have to knock to come into their own home. 

Quoting ramita:

SS wouldn't have to knock because it is also his home. Anyone else I expect to knock unless I knew they were there. As in I had just talked to this person, and then came inside. SS ran inside to do something and that person followed him in to try to get him to come on.



MojoRsn
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:32 AM

My skids would come running in. But if it were me and the door was left open, I would not cross the threshold. I would stand there saying "hellooooo" to let someone know I was there and wait until someone asked me to come in. Sounds like vampire rules. LOL


kappalopokis
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:35 AM


My SD invites me in to her mom's house all the time.  I don't enter though, because I feel it's disrespectful.  I always tell her to go get Mom or Stepdad so THEY can invite me in.   I might enter when she invites me when she gets a little older, but right now I think it's best if I wait outside.  My ss is younger and he always knocks and waits with me utnil they come to the door. I don't tell the kids to enter/wait.  I just assume that their mom has told them what SHE would prefer. 

They know that THEY are HOME at our house... and do not have to knock to enter ever. They are also welcome to invite their Mom over/in any time.  But, we would prefer a warning if they want to invite her over. Thankfully, that's only happend one time. 

Quoting MojoRsn:

My skids would come running in. But if it were me and the door was left open, I would not cross the threshold. I would stand there saying "hellooooo" to let someone know I was there and wait until someone asked me to come in. Sounds like vampire rules. LOL




DDDaysh
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:35 AM

 That's odd that he'd just walk in.  Were your DH and SD in the front yard and maybe your DH told him to just go in? 

I go into my parents house without knocking, and my grandparents house sometimes, but that's because that's the way it's always been with them.  When I first started knocking after moving out it weirded my Mom out, so I don't.  I have occasionally gone into my aunt's house if no one answered when I knocked.  They have a big house and you can't always hear a knock if they aren't in the same room.  So if my son was over there and I needed to get him, or if I was dropping by to pick something up (pre-arranged) and they just don't answer, I'll knock, then I'll wait a few seconds and if no one comes I step just inside the door and call out "Hello." 

kappalopokis
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:38 AM


They were outside but DH didn't/wouldn't tell stepdad he could come in without escorting him.  Stepdad didn't even SPEAK to my DH at all. 

Quoting DDDaysh:

 That's odd that he'd just walk in.  Were your DH and SD in the front yard and maybe your DH told him to just go in? 

I go into my parents house without knocking, and my grandparents house sometimes, but that's because that's the way it's always been with them.  When I first started knocking after moving out it weirded my Mom out, so I don't.  I have occasionally gone into my aunt's house if no one answered when I knocked.  They have a big house and you can't always hear a knock if they aren't in the same room.  So if my son was over there and I needed to get him, or if I was dropping by to pick something up (pre-arranged) and they just don't answer, I'll knock, then I'll wait a few seconds and if no one comes I step just inside the door and call out "Hello." 



DLMsMommy
by Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:39 AM
SD's step dad would never be welcome to just come into my home like that. If he did DH would definitely handle it!! As for SD though... it is her home too. I do not expect her to knock any more than I would expect DD to (though she is 4 so that's not an issue yet...lol) I DO, however, expect anyone entering my home... be it DH, SD, or anyone else... to announce themselves as soon as they open the door. A simple, verbal "knock, knock" or "Hi everyone" is enough for me to know who just walked in. :)
N_maricle
by Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 11:39 AM
Hmm, was your dh nearby? Maybe he waved him in?


Quoting kappalopokis:


DH and SD were playing outside.  SS and I were playing inside.  So, I was within about 3 feet of the door.  and had left it unlocked because I figured that I'd hear them pull up and just take SS outside when they got there.  I just didn't hear them... and he didn't knock. 

Well, I did hear him STOMP up my steps but it didn't give me enough time to react and get to the door. 


Quoting N_maricle:

I would start keeping the door locked:) I dont want anyone walkIng in uninvited.





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