Ok this is more a DH issue and I need some advice. I recently started working days. I have had a hard time adjusting my sleep schedule. A lot of stuff wakes me up. Last night it was almost 11pm before I fell asleep. I was woken up at 3 am by dogs barking. It takes me 30 minutes at least to get back to sleep. I was woke up again about 4:20 am when OSD 14 got up and got in the shower. I was startled out of sleep by the doors and the loud clank the shower makes when you turn the water from the tub to the shower. Husband then gets up at 5am for work and I get up at 5:30 to get kids to school by 6:45. When I got up and came into the kitchen, both SDs and DH were in the kitchen. I told DH good morning and then asked SDs who got up to shower at 4:20am. OSD said it was her. I said something about it waking me up and scared the crap out of me because I couldn't figure out who as up that early. We did have a home invasion about two blocks away last week. I said "no more, 5am is early enough." OSD looked sheepish and said okay. I then tried to say explain that showering at 5am would still give her an hour and a half to get ready. DH interrupted and said "ok!" Kind of like "that's enough you can quit harping now!" I get pissed and walked out of the room but didn't say shit. I went to the bedroom to finish getting dressed and make our bed. DH came in asking what was wrong. I said nothing and he said something was obviously bothering me. So I told him that it pissed me off when he cut me off and I feel like I can't say anything in my own house. DH got pissed and said "I'm sick of this." And walked out the front door. I'm sick if it too. I wasn't griping or harping or yelling. I was simply trying to talk to OSD. I'm to the point of telling him I'm done doing anything for his kids if I'm not allowed to speak to them about simple things in this house. They live here one week and with their mom one week. DH and I have been married 5 years and together 7. I feel like this has always been an issue where if I try to voice something to either of his kids he cuts me off but then says I have equal right to say something to them. I am ready to just be done with this stepmother thing if I can't have some basic considerstion in my own house. I know part of it is I am tired and stressed out trying to plan a surprise birthday party for about 35 people for DH for tomorrow. Sorry this is rambling. Not sure what advice I am looking for other than to just get it off my chest.
on Sep. 26, 2013 at 7:18 AM