DH and I got married last fall. He has two boys, 13 and 2 - different BMs. We wanted to have a child close in age to the 2 year old so we started trying to get pregnant shortly after the wedding. When we found out we were expecting, I told DH BM of the older SS would likely have issues with it and would try and get pregnant herself. She also has a 2 year old.
So here I am, 9 months pregnant and BM has just announced she is 4 months pregnant. She just can't bear the thought of possibly sharing the attention of a pregnancy and new baby with someone like me. I feel so bad for SS. She can hardly juggle being a SAHM to SS and her two year old let alone adding an infant to the mix. On top of that, she already complains about the lack of room in her home, how disobedient her younger child is, and how exhausted she always is after chasing after her. I feel like SS and his needs are just going to get further neglected in that home. I feel so bad for SS and the new baby.
Any advice on helping make this transition as easy as possible for SS? He is at an age where he is full of teenager attitude and needs.