If a single mom has raised a kid up till they are 14 or 15- and that kid is a good student, band member, college bound kid, who has never been in any trouble. But- who decides that dads house seems a little easier because he has lower standards than mom- the dad should NOT say hey why don't ya come live with me?---
This happened to some people I know pretty good. Actually the dad is my husbands step brother. When going got a little rough at moms house when the kid was about 15 he let the kid move in with him. Around here by the time a kid is that age the law supports wherever the kid wants to be (which is somewhat crazy because of situations like this) so kid moves in with dad. Who happens to live in a crap school district. Then dad has no standards at all for what is expected of the kid. His grades and self esteem plummet- fast forward 4 years- he is now working at mc Donald's with a one month old baby- his girlfriend already has another kid by another boyfriend. His life is such crap compared to what his future held just a few years ago. His mom was a great lady who had always done what was best for him. When he left her house at 15 he was planning on medical school- he don't make it past his first semester of college:(
When 15 yo kid came to dad and said -whah whah mom is being mean- the best thing dad could have done was to say - listen to your mom- she has done a good job with you this far.
I just ran into the boys mom this afternoon and it got me thinking about it. I don't think it is anything I would have to worry with personally but I guess it is possible. I just wondered what other ladies would think about it. If you have good skids- do you give credit to the custodial parent?