And I'm not at all sure what it is I just have this feeling of unease...
We meet BM halfway for pick-up/drop-off at 6:00, but sometimes, if she or her boyfriend are in the area she offers that we can meet at a closer location (for us) at 5:00. At the exchange on Friday she had told DH that her boyfriend was going to be in the town 10 minutes away from ours on Sunday, so DH could choose between meeting her boyfriend there at 5:00 or at the halfway point at 6:00. Today he got a text from her at 10:30 a.m. saying "I will be meeting you at the halfway point at 6", basically taking away his option of meeting her boyfriend in the next town over and taking the boyfriend out of the pick-up/drop-off equation altogether. We didn't think much of it until we heard from DH's sister, that BM had posted on FB "In desperate need of prayers" within minutes of her texting DH about that change in pick-up/drop-off.
Because BM communicates VERY little, DH and I have kind of gotten in the habit of waiting for something to drop on us, for example when BM announced to us less than a week before she moved 115 miles away from us, yet SHE had known that she planned on moving for months apparently... So because of this kind of pattern, we're a little worried that something big is going on that could effect SD and/or us and we're kind of "waiting for the other shoe to drop".
I'm sort of wondering if BM and her boyfriend have broken up or are on the outs, which would be terrible for SD and for BM. They depend on him financially and just moved 115 miles away from us and 85 miles away from all of their family to follow his job! In addition, he has been in SD's life for 3 1/2 year or so, so that would be hard for SD to have him gone from her life. Not to mention, as much as BM really really makes my blood boil sometimes, I know heartbreak and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. SD has told DH and I before that BM really wants to get married and really wants to have more kids but that her boyfriend refuses to marry her and says he doesn't want to have any children with her, SD used to say that he was joking but she mentioned it this past weekend (when I was helping her count how many cousins she had, and asked if BM's boyfriend had any nieces or nephews, because they would probably be her cousins someday) and she told me that she thinks he is serious when he says that and she seemed a little worried/upset about it.
Anyway, this is just me being my overly worrisome self, I know there's nothing I can do and that it's not really my business, I just worry about stuff like this and needed to get this out somewhere. Mostly I'm worried that something is going on that will impact SD or DH and I negatively (similarly to the suprise move).
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" ~ Eleanor Roosevelt