she asked if she can call me mama...but then chooses not to. (long)
The other day while working on homework she just randomly said out the blue "i feel like your my mom" I was totally caught off guard but managed to tell her that was sweet and give her a hug. The next day she asked if she could call me mom. I told her that was her decision to make and if she wanted to call me mom she could, but she could also continue to call me Theresa. she said ok mama. but then for the rest of the night called me Theresa again. The EXACT same thing almost word for word happened the next day again at homework time. Later that evening her grandmother (dads mom) called to say hello to her. I called her to the phone but didn't tell her who was on the line, I heard her grandma say hey Nevaeh and instantly her face lit up and she shouted HI MOMMY!!! I said no baby its your grannie and you could just see her poor face fall. In the past year I have only heard her mention her bio mom 2 or 3 times and usually its just to say my moms name is .......im thinking though that since she started 1st grade this year she is seeing alot of kids with their moms and has really become aware her bio mom isnt around and she is trying to put it all together. Im just unsure of how to address this. Should we just leave the whole subject alone unless she comes to us about it? Should we bring up the subject of her bio mom to her and tell her why she isn't here? Truthfully we don't know..she just vanished. Does she need couseling?? Is this normal behavior?? I just m in totally new territory and I don't want to mke a mistake that will scar her emotionally later.