I am here to see if any is currently in my situation or has been in the past. Any thougths and advice is appreciated.
Here is a little back history.
My current SO and I were high school sweethearts and then split after high school in 2006. He then was with BM ever since then and stayed because they had two little boys. My SO hunted me down on FB in 2010 and had been trying to get ahold of me ever since then. Then in 2012 we met up and got back together. We have been together since 2/12 and offically since 4/25/12. We have been living together as "nearly-weds" since 6/12. We split rent,bills, groceries, household chores, animal duties, etc.
Despite how long we have been together I have not met his two little boys, 5 & 6 years old. It has been over a year now. According to my SO, BM never ask questions about anything to do with his life. She lives with the boys at her parents house 40 minutes acorss town away from us. There is no set schedule for him to see his children. It varies every week and he only sees them when she works nights and she needs a sitter. That is only a few times during the week and lasts only up tile about 8/830pm. A little over a month ago my SO told me he is not ready for his children to HATE him because "Daddy" isn't with "Mommy". Even though he has told me before that the boys know and understand that they are not together. Then he said he is afraid of what BM will do when she finds out her children will be around another woman. This is just the basics of the situation. I am more than happy to answer any other questions that could help.