I have yet to meet my boyfriend's exwife and mother of his 4 boys. We've been dating since May and I met the kids in July. I spend my weekends there (long distance - 2 hour drive) and plan to move there after I graduate nursing school in the spring. I'm not "above" meeting her, but I'm also wondering how much effort I should put into it. With working full time, school full time, and helping with kids and BF (he's CP) on the weekends, I really don't have time. When he takes them to their mother's I'm usually in school, and when he goes to pick them up, I usually have to get back home for work. BM is 2 hours from BF in the other direction. IMO, if it happens, it happens. I don't feel it's my job to push it. It's my job to not fight it. Opinions?
I guess I should also add that BM doesn't have a reliable vehicle to come pick up the children. It is ordered that she have them every other weekend and they each pick up their kids (she picks up Friday to take to her home, he picks them up Sunday to bring back home). BF has told BM that if she relies on him to drop them off, he will bring them only when it is convenient for him, which has been once a month since June.