Does your DH expect to be introduced to friends, family, or acquaintances of the OP or SP?
For the BMās in the group, do you expect to be introduced to people that know OP or SP?
SS had an event at his school last night. SF has a friend, whose son is in the same grade as SS. Heās constantly hanging around us when we go to school events. Although weāve never met him, he knows who we are (BF and SM). He really pisses DH off, because heās always making comments (when heās next to DH) to SS like ā āYouāre just like SF.ā āWhy isnāt SF here today? You should go home and tell your dad to come next time.ā DH really wants to say, āHis dad is here today. Unfortunately, his stepfather couldnāt make it. Who are you by the way?ā but he doesnāt want to be a jerk who causes a scene.
BM, on the other hand has no qualms about pushing her way into conversations with my friends to say, āIām SSās mom. Who are you?ā Last night I ran into a few parents that Iāve become friendly with. They had kids in SSās class last year and they know the whole blended family scenario. One asked me how the baby was coming along, and BM cut between us to said, āHi. I donāt know if you remember me. Iām SSās mom.ā I also ran into an old high school friend, who was at the event with their younger sibling. She just transferred to a new college and I asked her how it was going, when BM cut in to say - āIām SSās mom. And you are?ā She interrupted six conversations last night to insert her momness and question who someone was, even though the people had nothing to do with SS. The very worst ā DHās boss. Heās the head of the building that DH works at (heās actually the major head honcho: DHās bossā bossā bossā boss). BM and SS were down the hallway looking at artwork when we ran into him. He said hello to DH and they stopped to chat for a second. DH introduced me as his wife, and seconds later BM pushed her way past me to say, āIām his ex-wife and the mother of our son.ā
WTF! We werenāt talking about you, or even SS for that matter.
BM has done this before to my family, but last night it was constant. I know it shouldnāt bother me - BM is his mom - but it eventually got on my nerves. She doesnāt offer any information about anybody that she knows, but yet she questions everyone that I stop and chat with.