Does your DH expect to be introduced to friends, family, or acquaintances of the OP or SP?
For the BMâ€™s in the group, do you expect to be introduced to people that know OP or SP?
SS had an event at his school last night. SF has a friend, whose son is in the same grade as SS. Heâ€™s constantly hanging around us when we go to school events. Although weâ€™ve never met him, he knows who we are (BF and SM). He really pisses DH off, because heâ€™s always making comments (when heâ€™s next to DH) to SS like â€“ â€śYouâ€™re just like SF.â€ť â€śWhy isnâ€™t SF here today? You should go home and tell your dad to come next time.â€ť DH really wants to say, â€śHis dad is here today. Unfortunately, his stepfather couldnâ€™t make it. Who are you by the way?â€ť but he doesnâ€™t want to be a jerk who causes a scene.
BM, on the other hand has no qualms about pushing her way into conversations with my friends to say, â€śIâ€™m SSâ€™s mom. Who are you?â€ť Last night I ran into a few parents that Iâ€™ve become friendly with. They had kids in SSâ€™s class last year and they know the whole blended family scenario. One asked me how the baby was coming along, and BM cut between us to said, â€śHi. I donâ€™t know if you remember me. Iâ€™m SSâ€™s mom.â€ť I also ran into an old high school friend, who was at the event with their younger sibling. She just transferred to a new college and I asked her how it was going, when BM cut in to say - â€śIâ€™m SSâ€™s mom. And you are?â€ť She interrupted six conversations last night to insert her momness and question who someone was, even though the people had nothing to do with SS. The very worst â€“ DHâ€™s boss. Heâ€™s the head of the building that DH works at (heâ€™s actually the major head honcho: DHâ€™s bossâ€™ bossâ€™ bossâ€™ boss). BM and SS were down the hallway looking at artwork when we ran into him. He said hello to DH and they stopped to chat for a second. DH introduced me as his wife, and seconds later BM pushed her way past me to say, â€śIâ€™m his ex-wife and the mother of our son.â€ť
WTF! We werenâ€™t talking about you, or even SS for that matter.
BM has done this before to my family, but last night it was constant. I know it shouldnâ€™t bother me - BM is his mom - but it eventually got on my nerves. She doesnâ€™t offer any information about anybody that she knows, but yet she questions everyone that I stop and chat with.