Does your DH expect to be introduced to friends, family, or acquaintances of the OP or SP?
For the BM’s in the group, do you expect to be introduced to people that know OP or SP?
SS had an event at his school last night. SF has a friend, whose son is in the same grade as SS. He’s constantly hanging around us when we go to school events. Although we’ve never met him, he knows who we are (BF and SM). He really pisses DH off, because he’s always making comments (when he’s next to DH) to SS like – “You’re just like SF.” “Why isn’t SF here today? You should go home and tell your dad to come next time.” DH really wants to say, “His dad is here today. Unfortunately, his stepfather couldn’t make it. Who are you by the way?” but he doesn’t want to be a jerk who causes a scene.
BM, on the other hand has no qualms about pushing her way into conversations with my friends to say, “I’m SS’s mom. Who are you?” Last night I ran into a few parents that I’ve become friendly with. They had kids in SS’s class last year and they know the whole blended family scenario. One asked me how the baby was coming along, and BM cut between us to said, “Hi. I don’t know if you remember me. I’m SS’s mom.” I also ran into an old high school friend, who was at the event with their younger sibling. She just transferred to a new college and I asked her how it was going, when BM cut in to say - “I’m SS’s mom. And you are?” She interrupted six conversations last night to insert her momness and question who someone was, even though the people had nothing to do with SS. The very worst – DH’s boss. He’s the head of the building that DH works at (he’s actually the major head honcho: DH’s boss’ boss’ boss’ boss). BM and SS were down the hallway looking at artwork when we ran into him. He said hello to DH and they stopped to chat for a second. DH introduced me as his wife, and seconds later BM pushed her way past me to say, “I’m his ex-wife and the mother of our son.”
WTF! We weren’t talking about you, or even SS for that matter.
BM has done this before to my family, but last night it was constant. I know it shouldn’t bother me - BM is his mom - but it eventually got on my nerves. She doesn’t offer any information about anybody that she knows, but yet she questions everyone that I stop and chat with.