So I backed off like everybody suggested and things have been better.
SD is 11 and has recently decided that she does not need to go to bed. Til like well after 1am.
BF theory is "well if she doesn't go to bed then that's her problem and she has to be tired all day"
ERRR...no, it's everybody's problem because she acts like a total 2 year old.
She cried more saturday than my 10 month old did. She cried cause she didn't ice cream at Chick Fil A, she cried cause BF made chicken nuggets and fries for dinner (i know i know but long story short, i am having major medical problems and he was trying to help me and get the kids taken care of at the same time). Today she cried because I told her to leave her dad alone while he was in the shower.
After she went home, I told her dad that while I appericate his theory on the "overtired" situation, that it isn't just her who has to be tired, it's everybody who has to deal with it. I flat out told him that there is no excuse for an 11 year old to cry over chicken nuggets.
For the record, she cried cause chicken nuggets "hurt my stomach" but she ate 10 of them without a problem when he finally told her that it was either it or be hungry. And she never complained that her stomach hurt.
It's just stupid.
I asked him how he felt about telling her it's bedtime and taking away her laptop, Itouch, and Ipad so she actually has to go to sleep. He was like "well they are her things".....................NO, they are your things as the parent beacuse you paid for them and it's your right to take them away or insist they be turned off at a certain time.
I just don't want to have to hear an 11 year old cry over damn everything for days.............