This is a doozy and long- pissed at BM for continually doing things!
Background:SS16 got into trouble and is currently on probation. BM was not married to her current DH before this but they were "engaged". At this time residence was one week on/off with BM. SD came in after being at BM's the previous week and broke down about how she missed her mom. SD said that she never gets any time with BM because she is always with her now DH in the bedroom and his kid/kids are always there. So my DH texts BM to let her know about the incident with SD. A couple of days later BM texts back and says she has a plan that will solve that. SD10 should move in with her full time and SS16 should live with us full time since that is how her now DH's arrangement is with his EX. My DH knew something was up because she fought so hard against the 50/50 arrangement last time in court. Anyway after numerous text messages and emails and phone calls we find out that BM's DH's ex was not allowing their kids to be around SS since he had gotten into trouble and BM was having SS stay at her mother's house when it was her week with skids. After the truth came out about the real reason she wanted the change in residence, SD starting acting out and telling DH how she wanted to live with BM so she could see her more. Well obviously this hurt DH's feelings but he wanted what was best for her. We sat down SS and asked him what he wanted and he almost started crying because this was the first he had heard of it. He actually said my mom doesn't want me to live with her? That broke our hearts as you can imagine so DH did what he thought was best for the skids. SS16 now lives with us and SD10 now lives with BM. They have one overnight each week and WOWK.
BM's overnight is Wed night and SS stays with grandma because BM's skid is there. SS16 is also in football, JV and varsity so he has football games 2 nights a week and FFA events. She has been to 2 of his JV games. She goes to every game that her skids have and that SD10 has and that her DH has. SS made the comment last friday night that he saw us there but he didn't see his mom again. My DH text BM to let her know about SS's comment because he was obviously hurt by her not being there. Saturday afternoon SS made the comment that his mom texted him and that next weekend they were going to go to a movie. DH read the text from his mom and she never said that. BM told SS that she was watching a movie with SS's step sister and SS asked if him and BM could go watch the sequel next weekend. BM's response: Let me ask my DH and maybe we can bring your step sister since she wants to see that movie too. Hello lady - he wants time with you!
I don't understand how a BM could basically give up residence with her son for another man and his skids. My SS knows why he is living with us now and why she doesn't come to his games. I get why he is lying about the text messages from her. It really pisses me off that she is putting her current DH and skids ahead of her own son. She rarely attended the therapy sessions and met his PO once. She doesn't follow the PO's rules for SS or anything. I know how selfish this woman is but I am really bothered by it and my heart breaks for him. They used to be really close but now I see the resentment he is building for her and I can't do anything about it.