So DS21 and his fiancée (now wife) booked a beach destination wedding which was last week. DH and I left Wed - came back Sun. As soon a we returned, before even going home, we went to pick up SD17 just to spend time with her. We'd been gone for 4 days and just wanted to see her face. It was late, so we didn't stay long. Put some souvenirs in BM & SD's hands, showed some wedding pics and left.
Here is my gripe, and it really isn't a true gripe...just a hot button for some reason. Every time DH and I go somewhere - anywhere; it can be a trip (which SD has joined us on except for 2 this summer) or just a local date night, SD and BM blow his phone up constantly over stupid shit. Things that can definitely wait until later. Such as, Senior Fees due dates which can easily be emailed or texted, but we get the same emails that BM gets from school). Besides that, we've already paid the Fees; all they had to do was thoroughly look at the spreadsheet; SD's name was NOT even on there because she owes $0.00. But the entire time, at the rehearsal dinner, at the picture session, at the actual ceremony...our phones were blowing up!
When we finally reached them, we had several text messages like "thanks for not talking to your daughter at all today, she's been calling you!" as if she's a fucking baby or something! Hello? My son, (DH's SS) got married! We weren't sitting around twirling our thumbs! My folks flew in, so DH was mingling with his in-laws and helping DS with final details, while I assisted my DIL. Both SD and BM know this: they received an invitation!
Every single thing does not revolve around YOUR child, BM! SD17 couldn't go because BM refused to let her miss 2 days of school. Cool, no biggie, but why blow us up the entire time...for non-critical issues, then try to slam DH for not being accessible?! She had an opportunity to go but YOU said no. And you want to talk about some Fees that WE'VE ALREADY PAID, lady?! Fuck off my phone, you're bored.
I remember a time when DH used to cave into their every stunt (mostly executed by BM), but when he read the surly texts, he just laid his phone back down and we hit the beach! He called his daughter when he got good & ready; the very next morning. What'd she want? Absolutely nothing! It was her mom texting from her phone! Does anyone else's skids or BMs call relentlessly? I'm not talking about emergencies or things that cannot wait. I'm talking about people, old enough to decipher need vs. want, emergency vs. something that can be tabled until later (like, AFTER a wedding ceremony), who call repeatedly like maniacs. Seriously, there were 11 missed calls, 4 texts messages on our phones within a 5 hour period. Hell, on the Gulf Coast, our phones barely had a signal anyways! Half the time, I didn't even know where my phone was!
In our defense, we talked to SD that morning before all the craziness began; she even talked to DS21 to wish him well. These particular calls/texts suddenly started after school hours. I swear sometimes, its like they (sometimes SD is in on it, too) resent DH having a life, outside of them. Get over it already, he's been married for 8 years now and STILL manages to take excellent care of his daughter. What else do you want? I'm finished with my rant. I feel better now.