My step son is 6 years old, he lives with us full time and sees his bio mom for visits 10 hours a week. Even though she hardly sees him, she has joint custody and makes our lives miserable. My husband and I have been married for two years. We had twin boys this last march! I love my babes.! I have never felt a love so deep! I love having my own kids! I didn't realize how different I would feel about my step son and my own kids. I feel terrible about it but I don't know what to do. When we got married I did everything I could for my step son. Volunteered in his class at school, ran him around everywhere, took him to school and picked him up everyday (an hour round trip to his school) He was so excited to be a brother and I was excited for I'm. Now that I have my own babies I want nothing to do with him. He is a burden to me and when I have to do things for him, I feel like I'm putting my own babies needs second and I hate it. I can't control these feelings! It's terrible! I don't want him involved with my babies at all! I don't want him to look at them, talk to them,play with them.. Nothing!! It makes me so angry and I know it's wrong. My husband and I fight about it all the time. I thought we would be this one big happy family and I don't want him near me or my babies. His bio mom causes so much drama in our lives and I feel that in a way, I blame him for it and of course it's not his fault but somehow inside, I hold him responsible. Then when my husband and I fight about it, I get mad at the kid instead of my husband. I feel crazy and don't know what to do about it. I don't know how to change the way I feel even though it is so wrong. Help!! Anyone ever feel this way?! I feel like the wicked step mother! Advice?!
on Oct. 10, 2013 at 6:30 AM