So next week, DD will be going on a 10-day school trip abroad ... far far abroad! The whole trip is a huge adventure ... very scary, since most of the girls speak very little of the country's language ... very different culture and customs! The trip is organised by the school via a specialist tour operator, three teachers will be accompanying the girls, they have an incredibly interesting and challenging schedule ahead of them ... it's truly a trip of a lifetime.
Now, DD happens to be visiting the town where SM was born, and where SM's parents still live. DD has never met these people, never spoken to them on the phone either (DD doesn't speak their language, and they don't speak English). Now, BF has come up with an outrageously stupid idea ... he wants DD to check which girls in her year group who do speak the language fluently (through their parents) will go along, and then arrange for one of these girls to take DD to SM's parents house, so DD can introduce herself, bring gifts and be welcomed into SM's family ... the other girl is to facilitate this meeting by translating for DD.
THIS IS ABSOLUTELY NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! First of all, I will NOT allow DD to separate from the group (nor can I imagine any of the other parents allowing their daughters to accompany her into what is effectively a stranger's house). She's got lost in Spain earlier this year when she got separated from her group ... but had a working cell phone on her. She'll have a cell phone there as well, but only a local one which will allow her to receive calls,not make them. If anything happens on this excursion, she would be unable to get help.
These people, whilst SM's parents, are total strangers to DD (who is 13) ... it would be very akward for DD (and for the other girl, assuming BF would find another set of parents stupid enough to go along with this) to talk to total strangers! Plus, DD has very little interest in SM and her two children, whom she sees EOW ... she couldn't give a monkey's arse about her parents.
I'm petrified that BF will start actively contacting parents. Not concerned that they'd actually go along with it, but concerned they might associate ME with this stupid (and dangerous) idea! Would you put a stop to it straight away by telling him it isn't going to happen?
Yesterday afternoon, BF collected DD from school to wish her a good trip (she left at 3.40am this morning ....aaaargh)! When he dropped her off at mine, he informed me that SM's nephew (a university student with good command of the English language) would contact DD once she gets a local SIM card for her phone and then visit DD at the hostel to collect the gift for SM's motherl. He expects DD to inform the teacher accordingly. I doubt that the teacher will entertain the request of a 13-year old girl and allow her to receive a male visitor in his early-20s ... for all you know, she could have picked up the guy on the internet. However, I kept that to myself and also didn't mention it to the teacher this morning ... BF had both the teacher's number and email address and could have informed her directly. SMH!