My youngest son turns 1 on Nov 9.
His father's family (and yes, that is how I refer to them), has been very hateful to me and my kids. Both my older son and my younger son (who is biologically related to them). They are constantly trying to get "rid of us" and telling BF that he "bite off more than he could chew" and such remarks.
He won't stand up to them and be man. We have some other issues too.
I am leaving as soon as money will allow. I am going home to my family (about 45 mins away) and he knows it. We have discussed it and already have visitation, child support, etc worked out.
I told him that I would invite his family to the baby's birthday party at my mom's house on Nov 9th. I was raised to believe that this is the right thing to do and that I need to be the bigger person.
The truth is- I don't want to be the bigger person, I don't want to include them. I don't want to even invite them.
Is it bad that I pray that they won't show up? I feel like just not inviting them is not an option. It would hurt BF and possibly create an even bigger rift between the baby and his family (which I am totally okay with the baby having no relationship with them).
I know it's wrong. But I need encouragement. I need some reassurance that it will work out.
on Oct. 16, 2013 at 11:33 PM