SD 5 has been showing up at our house for somewhere around 8 weeks with these bumps all over her.
Backstory: In the early weeks, there were only a few here and there. They were dismissed as bug bites, because after all, it was summer. The bumps began to appear in places that- mostly right around her patny line, waist line, and buttocks- mosquito bites really should not be. DH questioned BM as to whether there was some type of allergy or contact dermatitis going on. BM had no answer, said she didn't know what it was.
I hated watching SD scratch like she did, and think it is ridiculous to just apply cream constantly. You need to get to the source of the discomfort, so at an exchange I rolled down my window and asked what kind of laundry detergent they used because I was going to switch to whatever it was to see if it could possibly be our laundry detergent causing it, and her response was "Mind your own business, I will take care of my daughter." I felt that could be a little out of line considering in the last year I have hardly spoken to her, I was not asking anything particularly personal, and was doing it out of concern for her daughter's discomfort, but whatever. This is the kind of cranky, miserable human we deal with.
As time progressed, SD was COVERED in new bumps each visit. They are now all over her body. Legs, trunk of her body, arms- and she frequently mentions her discomfort. I panic, BED BUGS! And what if she brings them here with her?! It has now been about a month since they started appearing and DH asks BM about them again. She tells him they are from SD playing in the grass. SD plays in the grass at our house and has for years, and I have NEVER seen anything like that result from it.
Enough is enough. Our private insurance has gone through. So we picked SD up Sunday and we took her to an urgent care center to see what can be done. She is getting scars from scratching these things open and it is just ridiculous.
The doctor looks her over, diagnoses them as insect bites of some kind, but says there is no certainty whether it is, fleas, bed bugs, mites, lice, etc. He observes that given the severity of the bites, SD has to be in contact with an infestation of whatever it is biting her and gives us a cream to treat them.
He then tells us that 4 humans, 5 cats, and a dog in a confined space can be a health hazard if proper hygiene precautions are not taken and that SD will not get better if she is constantly reintroduced into that environment.
I take her home, bathe her, and what should fall off of her while she is being rinsed off? A flea!!!!
When our visit was over, we took SD back to BM. DH gave BM the cream and explained to her how to use it, when to use it, and that she really needs to treat her home and animals for it to be effective. Don't you know this moron STILL blamed the grass.
Yesterday was our next visit with SD. BM has not used the cream prescribed by the doctor at all this week and SDs hair was greasy, and unclean proving she hadn't been bathed, as directed before applying the cream.
WHAT KIND OF JACKASS BM IS SO STUPID, LAZY, AND/OR SELFISH THAT SHE WOULD LET HER DAUGHTER SUFFER TO PROVE TO DH THAT HE ISN'T IN CONTROL??? REALLY??? He didn't make up that cream and advice so he could tell her what do to. IT CAME FROM A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL and she got photocopies of all documentation- something she has never had the courtesy to do for DH.
And if mother of the year had taken care of it over the last two months at some point, it never would have gotten to the point where he had to try take control of the situation.
AND FOR ALL YOU WOMEN WHO SAY BM IS NOT MY PROBLEM: These are the scenerios where BM and her worthless behavior DOES become my problem.
Is there anything that can be done to force BM to do something about the flea problem to releive SD of the suffering and protect my home?
I already bathe and flea treat the dog every 4th Saturday, and have purchased carpet powder for fleas, but are there any suggestions on the best products or methods to protect our home and dog???
Oh, and I also must admit that I am super irritated that I now have to worry about SD bringing fleas into my home and my dog getting them since I found one in her hair who knows how many others there are.