My heart is breaking for SS. BM has supervised visitation and has only seen him 2 times since early summer. She is angry at the world and even though she has family who is willing to supervise, she refuses to speak to any of them. She claims that the fees for the court supervisors are too high. DH facilitated a couple of visits but, now she doesn't want to visit with DH there either. In addition, she now claims that because she is angry at DH that she refuses to attend any of his extra curricular or school events because she refuses to be in the same location as DH or myself.
I know she has issues that she needs to deal with, but it kills me that she's making such little effort to be there for SS. He deserves so much more and he needs her. Granted he needs a healthy her, but she's important to him just the same! Why isn't this all a wake up call to her? A call to action? I just can't wrap my head around it... I'm just so saddened by the situation.
Back-story: DH has been the PCP since SS was an infant. BM &DH had joint custody with BM having EOWE visitation. BM was charged with felony offenses including possession and intent to distribute illegal drugs while in physical custody of SS. DH filled for an emergency modification of custody. This was granted and it was ordered that BM's visitation would be supervised and that she undergo a D&A eval and complete recommended treatment. This was based on the current situation as well as past documented instances of DUI and drug possession during exercised custody time. During the months between court dates she opted not to identify a supervisor or utilize a neutral court supervisor. Dh did make himself available to her and supervised 2 afternoon visits. Prior to them going back to court, BM charges were dropped to less severe non-drug related charges. BM did not comply with the court order to undergo the drug eval and complete recommended treatment. When they went back to court she indicated that since the charges were dropped she didn't feel she needed to complete these things. DH restated concerns and the judge concurred that BM still was required to complete these steps prior to entertaining reinstating unsupervised visitation.