Based on a few different responses, I have a question.
Why do some women allow men to not handle things in their home after a divorce? Make excuses for him? Even those SMs whose kids have SMs say they get it because they, the woman, takes care of the kids and communicates with mom regarding moms and dads kids.
What is the point in defending a man's ineptitude instead of having higher expectations for him and telling him to deal with the communication like a grown up and to take care of the majority of the care of his children?
How many of these women are the same ones who would berate a mom for having the SF bathe the kids, cook for them, talk to dad?