So I stopped at a local grocery store to buy some fried chicken because I'm sick, it sounded good and I didn't feel like cooking. While the lady was fixing my bag of chicken she started making small talk.
She said, "your girls are so pretty." I said, "Thank you," and smiled. She said "I gotta say though, your older one looks nothing like you." I laughed a little and said "well, that's because she's actually my stepdaughter."
She shot a quick glance at SD and then looked back to me. She said, "No honey, she's your daughter."
SD was bored with this grown up small talk and the cakes caught her attention. As soon as SD's attention was diverted the woman lowered her voice a little and said "I just didn't want her to hear you say something like that. She'll think you don't love her. Stepmoms are moms too."
Oh lady. I'm just trying to buy chicken. I'm not looking for an SM vs. BM debate..I can't even breathe out of one side of my nose. My voice sounds like Chuckie off of Rugrats. But I realize that's partly my fault. I should have just laughed and said "Yeah you're right..she doesn't look like me." But what I said was honestly just the most natural thing to come out of my mouth.
I told the lady that being her stepmom was something I couldn't and wouldn't change. She knows I love her without me pretending I'm her mom.
It just caught me a little off guard. I don't usually correct strangers. It's just given her comment..it felt fine to say that. Though it's odd to comment to strangers that their apparent children don't look like them. I think this is mostly a southern thing. Everyone thinks your business is theirs and they always have a hefty helping of good hearted advice to go with what you actually asked of them.