I can deal with her targeted hatred towards me and her incorrect assumptions, but it's so sad to see how openly she and her parents (whip watch the kids daily) hate me and my husband to others and especially to the kids. My husband has a really close relationship with his kids and he has been diligent about listening to the kids' counselor's advice about their emotional well-being, introducing me to them, and integrating me into their family. It's gone beautifully and the kids and I have a wonderful, loving relationship. We have never said anything negative about their mom and we include her in our prayers at mealtime and at bedtime with them.
My issue is that due to the overt hatred from their mom, they don't talk to either her or their dad about anything happening in their lives at the other's house. We hear is obvious tension whenever their mom calls to talk to them and she's asking them about their day. They are also bothered and confused whenever we say something good about their mom. My question is, is there anything we can do to help this? Any thoughts are appreciated.