What do you think a "normal" preteen/young teenager is supposed to act/behave like? I'm talking between 11 and 13 yrs old mostly. I just really need some perspective so I can understand my SD better, or at least come to terms that I will probably not "understand" her, but that's ok. There is some slight concerns that SD may have a pre-disposition for depression since BM is bipolar and SD has said herself she feels depressed a lot. Before I tell you all about SD's behavior/attitude, I'd like to here what is typical with things like relationship with friends/ family/ boys and how they interact with the world in general I guess. I know this is vague but any input would be great.
I just had a quick conversation with SD 12 and t reminded me of what really seems bizarre to me. Her self-esteem is so low and she obsesses over her looks because she thiks she is ugly, and literally this topic comes up nearly everyday. She got back from a school dance and was all bummed out because she felt her hair didn't look good and she wasn't wearing a costume because she thought none of her friends would, but they did. But then she goes on to say that she thinks she is the ugliest person in the world and that she hates herself "like the devil". I just told her what I always do when she talks about her appearnce and say something like, "your gorgeous, as always, and you should not compare yourself to others" and then just kept saying, "no, I don't think your ugly, your a very pretty girl" when she asks me for the 10th time if she is ugly. But tonight she just stomped off to her room mumbilng, "I hate parents". Anyway, i have no clue what we can do to help her, but it's worrisome for me. Here is a pic of her that I took at a wedding we went to last weekend, I think she is a beauty.