Is there ever a situation where it is ok for a parent to "walk away" from their kids? Or let the other parent push them out of the kids lives?
This is why I ask.
BM is very controlling and manipulative. We experienced this with her. DH would pick SD up from her at 5:00 when he got off of work and she would call by 7:00 that same night crying telling SD that she missed her and couldn't wait for her to come home TOMORROW! Sd would then cry saying she wante to go back to her mom that her mom missed her and needed her... We lived about 30 minutes apart and we made it through that stage with her until SD was old enough to know what she wanted to do and BM quit doing it. So it's first hand experience with the situation I am questioning.
She was married for 3 years to a guy we will call W. BM and W had I guess you could say 2 kids together (the second isn't his but was conceived and born within their marriage). When they got divorced she got remarried to a guy in the military. They moved from Ok to Ky. W got the kids for a month in the summer and a week at Christmas. When they were there BM would call and cry and say how much she missed them and they she wanted to them to come home. The daughter would then cry non stop for hours and would be so upset about it that she would be sick. She would get mad at W for not taking her home. She wouldn't eat or sleep and would just cry. After a year W couldn't handle it any more and said that he couldn't do that do his daughter any more and told his kids they didn't have to come if they didn't want to. (They were 3 and 4 when it started and are now 6 and 7) He still calls them but BM doesn't answer and never calls back. He still pays child support every month, buys them Christmas presents and asks them to come see him. He even offered to go there to see them but BM told him the kids didn't want him there. BM has made W out to be a horrible person to his own kids. Sd tells about all the bad things she says about him.
He took her to court about it and they wouldn't do anything about it.
I have debated if I think what he has done is right or not so I thought I would get other opinions.